Your children are designed for you. Not by you. Beyond putting a seed and egg together, you really don’t have much to do with it.
Sorry if this bursts your ego. There is something bigger than you that put your son and/or daughter together for you. And He has been doing this for 200,000 years, since humans have inhabited this planet.
Bill Bryson sums in up neatly in his introduction to A Short History of Nearly Everything when he says:
“Not only have you been lucky enough to be attached since time immemorial to a favored evolutionary line, but you have also been extremely–make that miraculously–fortunate in your personal ancestry. Consider the fact that every one of your forebears on both sides has been attractive enough to find a mate, healthy enough to reproduce, and sufficiently blessed by fate and circumstances to live long enough to do so. Not one of your pertinent ancestors was squashed, devoured, drowned, starved, stuck fast, untimely wounded or otherwise deflected from its life’s quest of delivering a tiny charge of genetic material to the right partner at the right moment to perpetuate the only possible sequence of hereditary combinations that could result in you.”
This entertaining science book details everything from atoms to earth quakes to evolution.
And while I think that child of yours is a miracle, I must stress that he or she is a miracle of God. In James Emery White’s A Search for the Spiritual he mentions the work of astrophysicist Sir Fred Hoyle who determined that if you would compute the time required to get all 200,000 amino acids together for one human cell to come together by chance, it would take about 293.5 times the estimated age of the earth.
These chances are so against the odds that this game of life, if you call it a game, must be held together by someone larger that creation itself. The Anthropic Principle mentions that the wold is uniquely suited to human beings. If the mix of carbon and oxygen weren’t just as they are, the earth would not be able to contain human life.
And thank God Jupiter is conveniently placed between Mars and Saturn otherwise our planet would be bombarded with asteroids and other space material.
These facts and ideas that have been put in to place only lead to me to one place. God. He is the designer behind all of creation. And those children of yours, no matter if they are biologically yours or are in your care, are yours to be nurtured. After all, they are here for a reason.
The reminder to myself is to let me son and daughter find this reason for themselves. For I already find myself dreaming up reasons for why they are potentially here. (Great architectural achievements, top athletics or saving the world from disaster.) But what do I know? I have no idea why they are here. They have already taught me things like patience, understanding and truer meanings of unconditional love. That in itself is enough. They’ve already bettered my world
They are here for a reason.
Just like you are here for a reason.