He did it. The coach told my son to leave the club sport. The story according to my six-year-old son was that he was hanging out, playing on the mats (not playing basketball,) and the coach asked him to leave. The school then called to pick him up early. Proverbs 4:7 says to get wisdom. … Continue reading Want to Stop Reacting to Your Conclusions? Seek to Understand.
Read books and blogs. Talk with other parents. Go to birthing classes, even parenting classes, before your baby comes. All a good idea, but nothing will truly prepare you for parenthood than actually becoming a parent. The weight of responsibility. The financial costs. The energy they have. The stubbornness they deliver. The temper-tantrums. All will … Continue reading Who’s the Teacher and Who’s the Student Here?
Fatherhood is a lot of work. There are times where there is no end in sight, and it feels like I won't spend a minute to myself for the next month on end. Fatherhood, and motherhood, is also a lot of joys. You hear people say children are a gift, a blessing, a joy. To … Continue reading Encouraging, Enriching and Acknowledging the Joy of Childhood
With about seven minutes remaining before we needed to be out the door to catch the school bus, my first-grade son melted down because his socks were too tight. I'm not the dad who can remember which clothes fit, nor am I the dad who proactively vets his kid's clothes when they jump sizes, and … Continue reading The Socks Are Too Tight, so Who Forces Who?
My grandfather's generation is the Korean War generation. The Silent Generation known for hard work and keeping quiet. Growing up, these kids were expected to be seen and not heard and also expected to carry their load and either work the farm or help in the family business to support the household. Then there is … Continue reading Perfecting Childhood
We're running a challenging little experiment in our house. Challenging because it constitutes finding 10 minutes twice a day for each parent to spend with each child. Amy McCready calls this 10-minutes, twice per day, per adult caregiver Mind, Body & Soul time in her book If I have to Tell You One More Time...The Revolutionary … Continue reading Raising Kids in Just 10 Minutes Twice A Day
You remember the firm voice. And if you're a dad, you've used it. Please write me if you've never used it to tell me exactly how that is working for you and how you manage to do it. There are the moments when a firm voice is absolutely necessary. Say, a toddler reaching up toward … Continue reading Firm Voices, Epidemics and Perceptions
Another sick day at home with the boy yesterday. He was getting better but still too sick to attend kindergarten. So yesterday was declared a binge-watch-four-movies day. For him. I worked from home. What sticks out the most for me is his comment about his classmates. Twice, he asked me if I knew what his … Continue reading Good Morning Wherever You Are
Whether you realize it or not, your mind is an open book. Maybe not all the time but a study published in Psychological Science in 2014 shows how the thoughts or moods can be transmitted through the mother and infant relationship. Simulate to watching a movie and getting anxious at the same suspenseful scene as the others … Continue reading Catching & Spreading Emotion
As a father today, I don't condone the use of physical punishment. (Although, my lack of patience at times brings the thought of implementing it into to my head.) I also don't see how nuns thought that such physical reprimand helps and supports the discipline they were probably seeking. My opinion is that these nuns … Continue reading The Balance of Discipline