Becoming a father was quite an overwhelming experience. There are books, groups, friends, blogs and resources to help a soon-to-be father wrap his mind around what is about to happen, but nothing really prepared me for the all-inspiring and humbling experience of holding my fresh, newborn son in my hands. The feeling of overwhelm didn't … Continue reading How God Sees Us and How Dads Want to Be Seen
People are fearful. Our antiquated lizard brain has helped keep us alive through fear for thousands of years. Here are some of the most common phobias: Social phobias or self-consciousness in social situations. Agoraphobia: fear of open spaces. Acrophobia: fear of heights. Pteromerhanophobia: fear of flying. Claustrophobia: fear of enclosed spaces. Entomophobia: fear of insects. … Continue reading Who Decides What’s Scary and What’s Not?
Wrong side of the bed. Late. A solid work schedule with over-committed appointments. A solitary banana for breakfast. Mix in a six and two year old trying to have a leisurely breakfast and you've got irritability. Time to get out the door kids! One thing to remember--and I write this for myself most of all--is … Continue reading Angry Dad, You’re Feeling Inadequate Again
The "IKEA effect" is a term used by Harvard researchers in a working paper to describe the idea that when someone builds something themselves they often overvalue whatever that may be. If you've ever bought something from the Swedish furniture maker, you know there is always some assembly required. Forget the fact that their instructions … Continue reading Applying IKEA Techniques to Empower Your Kids and Maybe Even Make them Happier
Happy Easter. Or I should say, I hope you had a happy Easter. Happy Easter Monday! Easter Monday is a holiday in some countries. Australia considers both Good Friday and Easter Monday a holiday, closing most tourist attractions and public areas. South Africa has renamed Easter Monday as Family Day, giving most workers the day … Continue reading Easter Monday Full of Hope
I used to sell book to educators at various districts in my surrounding metro. I pulled up to one school in particular, and I will never forget the banner they had hanging from the exterior brick. "Your Pathway to College." This is an elementary school. Reading, writing and arithmetic. I am no expert in public … Continue reading Tour Campus Help Campus Selection–for Kindergarten
My four-and-a-half year old son is as independent as it gets, unless we're visiting extended relatives that are new to him every time we visit, every couple of years. So he's rummaging downstairs in our unfinished basement. This place is full of treasures to a boy his age and full of junk waiting to be … Continue reading That’s Nice. My Pre-schooler Has a Powerdrill! Put It Down. And Now He Hates Me.
Be you. Discover your dreams and chase them. Don't let anyone hold you back. All of these inspiring and motivating sentences are great, and I'm a big proponent of dream chasing and self improvement. But how do I figure out who I am to chase my dreams? Or better yet, as a father, how do … Continue reading The Weight and Responsibility of Defining Your Child’s Self
Starting off the New Years weekend with an extra day off today, but there were several times where I felt a little stifled from the family time. Maybe it's the overabundance of family time during the holidays. Maybe it was just a mood of mine. Either way, I found myself getting irritated with my son … Continue reading I Should Be Grateful You’re Irritating Me
I naturally default to filling the provider shoes in the family (even though role is a joint venture.) Maybe it's a guy think, part of fatherhood, but I enjoy being able to provide groceries, emotional support and shop for friends and family during Christmas. So my immediate reaction to my four year-old son's letter to … Continue reading Oh No, Santa Couldn’t Bring Everything